The Perfect Partner: Are You A Soulmate Material?
When you’re on the search for your perfect partner, you need to ask yourself: Are you a soulmate material? It’s easy to get overly focused on the person you’re looking for, not spending enough time also looking at yourself to see what you’re bringing to the relationship.
Self-reflection is important, and if you’re not the kind of person you’d want to date, then you might need to be making some changes. It’s important to remember that while you’re searching for your soulmate, your soulmate is also searching for you.
You have to be the kind of person inside and out that you think your soulmate would want to see. Don’t take this so far that you’re wearing a façade – a mask of who you really are – but put some effort into bettering yourself.
For example, if you go out to dates and just out in general dressed poorly in dirty clothes and haven’t bathed in a bit, it’s not very likely that your soulmate will think of you as their first choice.
Take the time, for your partner’s sake, to clean yourself up and make yourself look nice and clean. If you’re a guy whose beard is really unkempt and messy, take a minute to clean it up or have a barber do it.
Likewise, if you’re a girl who sticks her hair in a ball on top of her head instead of taking time to style it, you might go the extra mile. It might seem shallow to put a lot of stress on appearance, but it’s also the first thing people take into consideration when they first see you.
Of course, you have to be a soulmate material in more ways than just physical appearance. You ought to be in a good place mentally and emotionally as well before trying to find your soulmate.
As unfortunate as it might seem, a mound of emotional or mental issues isn’t the most attractive thing in a relationship, especially early on. If you’re not even content with yourself and the person that you are, you can’t expect someone else to think of you as their soulmate.
Work on yourself first before you try to bring in other people to your life. This can be done with therapists, by talking to friends, and even just by getting online help. You should also have some interesting aspects to you to make yourself more appealing to your soulmate.
If they asked you what you did for fun, would you really want to just say that you mostly sit around at home not doing much? Instead, pick up a hobby, develop an interest in something, or engage in a sport even that you can connect with them on at some level.